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Your words say "I'm listening," but your body says "I'm bored." 😴 Communication is more than words. Master these non-verbal cues:· EYES: Are you making gentle eye contact? Or are you looking at your phone?· ARMS: Are they crossed (closed off)? Or are they at your sides or gesturing (open)?· POSTURE: Are you turned away?... Continue Reading →
The "Awkward Conversation" FrameworkStop avoiding the awkward talk.Here’s a simple 3-part framework to navigate it:1. NAME IT: Start with vulnerability, not accusation. "I feel a bit awkward bringing this up, but I care about us/this project, so I want to be honest about..." · "I'd like to talk about said topic. It's been on my... Continue Reading →
The way you argue with your partner today might not be your fault. It's probably how you learned to communicate as a child.We inherit communication styles like heirlooms, often without realizing it. That defensive tone? The habit of shutting down? The fear of awkward conversations?Look back. You'll likely see echoes of the household you grew... Continue Reading →
Do you know the biggest communication myth? That it's about talking.The sexiest part of communication is actually listening.We think great communicators are silver-tongued orators. But true connection happens when you become a master listener.Listening is not passive. It's an active skill where you're:· Hearing the words.· Watching the body language.· Sensing the emotion behind it.·... Continue Reading →
Are You Listening or Just Waiting to Talk?"(A Quick Tip)Here's your communication cheat code for the day:Listen to understand, not to reply.Most of us in conversations are just politely waiting for our turn to speak. We're formulating our counter-argument instead of truly hearing the other person.The Practice:Next conversation you have,try this: Your only job is... Continue Reading →
Your emotional triggers are running the show... until you name them. 🎤That feeling of instant heat, defensiveness, or shutting down in a conversation? That's a trigger.You can't control the trigger, but you can control your response. The first step is awareness.The 2-Minute Trigger Check-In:1. Think of a recent argument. What was the exact moment you... Continue Reading →
Want to be heard instead of argued with? It's all in the phrasing. 3 switches to make today: 1:❌ STOP SAYING:"You never clean your room!"✅ START SAYING:"I see your room is messy. What's going on?"Why it works:"Never" is an accusation. A neutral observation and a question opens a conversation.2:❌ STOP SAYING:"That's a stupid idea."✅ START... Continue Reading →
When I was at the height of my doubt, on the rooftops of Soweto 6, God introduced Himself to me as love. I always thought the Christ story was wonderful but that evening it sat down next to me and proceeded to literally blow my mind for the next three weeks.God sends Jesus to model... Continue Reading →
The problem with "Being Human" is that we are both gift and curse. To experience all the emotions, to allow life to be felt, and to dive into the unknown. This has been the challenge of writing my new poetry book, currently titled "Being Human". I knew I wanted to write a book of poems,... Continue Reading →
Writing for my new poetry book has been so beautiful and freeing and still on going. But I was having a chat with a friend and this concept of loniless just wouldn't let go of me and I thought even as the writing continues this was a beautiful moment.What is loneliness if not a solo... Continue Reading →