Your emotional triggers are running the show… until you name them. 🎤
That feeling of instant heat, defensiveness, or shutting down in a conversation? That’s a trigger.
You can’t control the trigger, but you can control your response. The first step is awareness.
The 2-Minute Trigger Check-In:
1. Think of a recent argument. What was the exact moment you felt that surge of emotion?
2. Name the feeling. Was it anger? Hurt? Shame? Insecurity?
3. Ask: “Why then?” What about that specific comment or situation that felt like a personal attack? What old wound did it touch?
Examples
· Situation: Your partner says, “Did you forget to pay the bill again?”
· Trigger Feeling: Shame & defensiveness.
· Why? It taps into a childhood narrative of being “irresponsible” or “forgetful” and getting punished for a test you weren’t prepared for.
When you know your trigger, you can say:
· “When you say that, it triggers a feeling of shame in me. I want to solve this bill problem together.”
This moves the conversation from a battle to a partnership.
Your turn: What’s one of your communication triggers? Acknowledging it is a powerful first step.
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