Under attack

Our minds are constantly under attack, you see it in the most basic of questions and scenerios such as, how are you?

I remember I had just come back from burying one of grandmothers, my phone lit up and the first question was how are you Mushasho? Before I even knew what was happening I was answering “I’m fine”

Which I wasn’t, I just buried someone who meant a lot to me. How was I fine? That is how I began questioning my speech patterns. Why was I comfortable answering such a profound question in auto pilot?

Because no one really cares how you are, they ask as a means of auto pilot more than really wanting to know. It’s how we observe protocol before going to speak about whatever is bothering us, a few seconds after admitting life is great.

The argument not everyone deserves to know how we truly are is valid but do not lie yourself at the very least.

How are you isn’t just some pleasantries to skip right through, it can the starting point of healing. Because if you’re not fine and you’re able to pin point it honestly, it will propel you further to wanting to fix the problem.

If it’s difficult to tell the truth and you need practice, start by answering honestly, how are you? You’ll be amazed how this small change can begin to affect the rest of your life, forever!