How can one win a battle with mental Illness? It’s not about being the fastest or even being the best it’s about understanding that your fight can’t be won through comparison. What you have to do to get better isn’t the same as the rest of your family or your loved ones but you must win, you have to!
Hi and welcome to the blog, one aspect of being a winner is appreciating what we have, so this week simply find one thing daily in your life to be thankful for and remember to keep sharing love as you navigate the waters of life.
What is winning and what does it have to do with mental health? Well for one thing a large part about being human is that we grow up learning the rules of society. Which for the most part means, we only win if it’s been set in the parameters of our society.
Unfortunately though you grow up and soon realise society can’t find a label or box for us and we can’t catch a break because society wont give us the break. This leaves us feeling hopeless and stuck, we could never win feeling hopeless or stuck.
To start winning we will have to do something us woke kids like to call ‘unlearning’. What we need to unlearn first is all the stuff society has taught us that we don’t agree with. Everyone wants to start with the big questions but start easy and build momentum.
What makes you happy? It’s as easy as picking a colour. My favourite colour is pink I simply realised I didn’t actually have a favourite colour shifting between red and blue. So I picked pink and it’s been interesting going through the learning process of that.
Pick what the world means to you, decide what flavour your favourite scent is and collapse under the majesty of rising suns. Decide what yes means and spend your life defending what makes you smile.
A moment will come when you will realise that you simply have to be yourself, and make sure that yourself understands how to be happy. The thing about the mind is that it can be programmed.
The first and most important step to reprogramming your mind is to accept who you are. Being completely honest with yourself based on your standards of truth. There will be things about yourself you can’t change, understand that beating yourself up about that is what’s adding to your pain.
Accepting yourself is the biggest win you could ever have grant. Not simply because you might like yourself, but because you could never truly love anyone else if you don’t truly love yourself.
That usually means getting help, what’s wrong with getting help? You’ve been getting help your whole life, what’s different about this? Give yourself the win. Let your mind take a break from all the worry weighing you down. We can’t change what’s happened, we can only hope and work to do better in the future.
This Mental Monday may you allow yourself the best and most rewarding win there is, the one that is marinated in self love, not out of some societal obligation but because YOU are love and love always comes out a winner. Until next week, take care and share the gift of love with all those around you. Even the ones hardest to love.
